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always tired · Joined: 02 Feb 2009 Posts: 1

i am completely burned out....i have cared for mom in my home for going on 4 years...she is elderly and completely helpless, but i have managed....but now, she has begun crying and wimpering every 2 hours, whether she is comfortable or not, night and day....i know the end is coming...and i have called in hospice....but being around this misery, night and day, is very trying....i love my mom and always will....

somebunniesmom · Joined: 04 Jul 2008 Posts: 5

My sympathies are with you in this difficult time. Please update us when you get the chance. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

theonly1whocares · Joined: 19 Apr 2009 Posts: 3

i'm totally burned out, i'm a 60 yr young male. I have been caring for my parents for the past 5 yrs. Recently my mother passed and now with my father. I have two older sisters that do not take any time in the inhareted responsibility in helping me. One sister has been her 4 hours in the last 10 months and the other sister has been her a total of 7 days in 10 months. When I ask for time off they say they don't have time. I'm sorry to say i"m very angry with them and have lost all resprect for them.
I need a break, I feel the care i'm giving my father is amouting to little patience on my part. I fight it and find my self unalbe to sleep at night... I can handle all this for my father. I refuse to abondan him and send him to an old folks home as my sister want to do... my mother died in a extended care faciliity recovering from an operation, she died alone and I refuse to allow my dad to die alone,,i will be with him to the end,,,well thanks for listing,,,i feel better already,,I hope it lasts for more then just a short while.... Cool

excuse my poor spelling,,,to tired to correct....and maybe i just don't care anymore....
I just needed someone to complian to and this blank page gives me some relief.

theonly1whocares · Joined: 19 Apr 2009 Posts: 3

hello always tired

very sorry to hear about your loved one. I know it is very hard and I hope your feeling better having a forum to express your feelings....

many people share your same trials and tribulations, we are of a special group of people that knows and can relate to you. Always know your doing the right thing by your mom and you will be happy in your memories of the love you gave her and the love she gave you,,there is going to be a special place in haven for you,,,,take care Wink

maili · Joined: 10 Aug 2009 Posts: 1 Location: hawaii

Difficult when not having the needs to tender ourselves, I know. Frustrating when knowing their can be others to assist, but not their choice. Whether financial limitations; our own values or other limitations: it can be overwhelming.

I am now researching in my own community what available elderly respite services and/or affordable ways I may have. As I feel, my own limitations. Though, I find the diminishing funding during these has become more of an issue or ON HOLD .... is now another wait.

More on the positive, Don't stop trying - till we get help.